tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12075818.post2137243218747264501..comments2023-09-28T08:42:04.677-07:00Comments on No Place to Hide: Post Thoughtsdweezilahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17555216638964634391noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12075818.post-60005994976050524112007-07-16T21:08:00.000-07:002007-07-16T21:08:00.000-07:00"You can make an impression, but you shouldn’t lea..."You can make an impression, but you shouldn’t leave a mark." I think I read something like that in the Kama Sutra (in the section about fingernails). And that's kind of what you've written: a Kama Sutra for the frontal lobes and open heart.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12075818.post-2585138091009865342007-07-16T11:11:00.000-07:002007-07-16T11:11:00.000-07:00i like your question about whether it applies to m...i like your question about whether it applies to men as well. I think it depends on the man. For me, if a man can let himself fall in love a little it just makes loving him, being with him so much nicer. But with anyone, friend or lover, if they're keeping their emotional cards to themself it's harder for that sweet merge. These thoughts of mine are all mine and not to be confused with by-laws or agreements that the whole group has made.dweezilahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17555216638964634391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12075818.post-79958140081469767222007-07-16T09:20:00.000-07:002007-07-16T09:20:00.000-07:00So you think this really applies to the man as wel...So you think this really applies to the man as well as woman? Can a man really love a little bit, I wonder? You seem to think so from the way it sounds in your post. But there is incredible learning to be had, I agree, and part of it is indeed learning to love yourself no matter what. I love your ability to dig deep and write it in an understandable way.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12075818.post-44654074517966956742007-07-10T17:02:00.000-07:002007-07-10T17:02:00.000-07:00dale,you're a good virtual friend. Always good for...dale,<BR/><BR/>you're a good virtual friend. Always good for me to stay open and stay intuitive. It's such a juicy path, this one. The triggers strike so deep, seem so real; they're so compelling. And yet, it's actually, eventually, only just me out here in this big throbbing echo chamber of the heart.<BR/><BR/>when are you coming to california for a visit?dweezilahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17555216638964634391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12075818.post-45583231846712988132007-07-10T09:53:00.000-07:002007-07-10T09:53:00.000-07:00What Maya said. But also, I'd say trust the insti...What Maya said. But also, I'd say trust the instinct that tells you something is wrong -- just because you rounded up the usual suspects and they were all innocent doesn't mean there's nothing to track down :-)<BR/><BR/>It's so true -- they'll never love us the way we want them to. Although of course most of us have those luminous moments when that seems like it's exactly what's about to happen. Or exactly what was about to happen, when... whatever. Something went unaccountably wrong.Dalehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14523194846272870013noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12075818.post-42996381520905451582007-07-09T00:10:00.000-07:002007-07-09T00:10:00.000-07:00"people will never love you the way you want to be..."people will never love you the way you want to be loved, even if they love you very much."<BR/><BR/>- wow. this struck me like lightning, but not in a destructive way. in a "i'm responsible for myself way." and i think that whether one is navigating the open relationship or the primary marriage or the kid-rearing or whatever it is, it's about remembering to love the self through it all.<BR/><BR/>i loved your "regarding open marriage" post - not smug at all but a testament of an alert and hungry heart on a brave journey of discovery and healing. thank you, dweezila. your honesty is...not only beautiful and inspiring, but necessary.Maya Steinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18412867857502233126noreply@blogger.com